As I grow a year older,its sort of mixed feelings…………Well being headstrong I am also disillusioned at same time, just 3 days b4 my D day I hear my beloved 1st Love Mumbai is attacked by intruders and many innocent victims lost their precious lives, well this has been tragedy since ages and what we do is talk, forget, vote our loving politicians with due respect & salute the spirit of the City where sufferings have no end,2day those innocent victims,2mrw God forbade, could be any 1 of us? When I heard the names Dadar,Opera House where blast took place, I got shivers send shivers down my spine because my earlier workplace PwC was located in Dadar & sometimes I used to wait at bus stop at Opera House to go to Colaba where I lived in my days in Mumbai.So on my Bday-16th July I am just Grateful to God & Gohonzon(for many non Soka Gakkai International members-its Buddhist philosophy I have strongly based my Life) that I am alive today, don’t know ahead but just wanna live in the present.
In this note I want to emphasis the alphabet M which has so much significance as pondering over my Life Journey so far :P As …………….
1.M for MA(Best Friend,Guide,philosopher,in short my LIFE) Dad I know you pamper me the most but MOM has truly been my source of (strength when I was weak, my voice when I could not speak-P.S-these lines I love 4rm song of Celine Dion & dedicate this to MA)Amidst silly squabbles and everything, she is someone I can pour my heart even at odd hours be silliest of silly issue, heartaches, recent crush or career tension, she gives the most patient hearing. Miss u MA, sumu disu(giving kisses in my Assamese-mother tongue)
Well I am blessed to be born in a very cool family where independent decisions are respected and no forceful obligations are entertained. It was my own decision to experience Boarding school life when most of the times its other way round when parents pushed their kids to Boarding. I always wanted to be Independent don’t know why but not being a true Feminist but hate to be dependent on man, wanted my own identity at any cost come what may rather than dreaming of marrying a fancy good-looking NRI or well settle dude from ivy league B school………………..
2.M for MUMBAI, owe a lot to Maximum City, Mumbai where I reached chasing my dreams , leaving on a Jet Plane and icing on cake MA accompanied me and we reached midnight and view of Queen’s Necklace from the aircraft was Breathtaking. Well its destiny that I landed up in a Finance course rather than Mass Media which was my 1st preference but now when I look back the dots are very well connected. I made it to the one of the BEST commerce colleges in India amidst sleepless nights regarding admission tension.HR being most hep and trendiest in South Mumbai-not to forget alumni I can boast my current Hearthrob Ranbir,Atti please don't kill me,i know you adore him a lot(guys Wake up Sid and some episodes of Koffee with Karan was shot in HR),Farhan Akhtaar, Karan Johar and Corporate honchos like Birla and list is endless but apart from this is also the place where I met my buddies for life and also revived my childhood passion-Dance. About Amchi Mumbai I won’t say things which has been always highlighted in many Bollywood Masala apart from Marine Drive(my favourite place in the world ) I want to HIGHLIGHT why Mumbai is my 1st LOVE and it is said a girl can never forget her 1st LOVE.
- Its Mumbai where I discovered the Real Me-Very Independent, Party Animal(always been),my love for Vodka and shots(courtesy Anir), Shopoholic, MovieBuff (dats something in my Blood) above all a SuperConfused Soul at times.
- Its Mumbai where I found most of my true Best Buddies 4 life.
- Its Mumbai which gave me my 1st career break-Great Brand in my CV and also got golden opportunity to teach in my alma mater and discovered my passion for teaching.
- Its Mumbai where I met once my then Man of Dreams(this tag keeps fluctuating not that i am a good flirt but to be honest i am very confused)-John Abraham(1 of the most sexiest Man), someone I adored as teenager and thanx to my school closest pal Neelanjana Barua
- Its Mumbai where I learnt that in Kalyug, many Relationships come with an expiry date.
- Its Mumbai where I encountered Mystic Law-Lotus Sutra-Buddhist philosophy.
- Well number 7 is my lucky as well as my birthnumber and I so wish I could have said Its Mumbai I met and discovered my True love but alas it ain’t the case as of now, lol.I am very happy to be single, alive and kicking and my funda is very clear that I want to see a friend in my Hubby rather than a Hubby in a Friend.
3. M for Mentor : I was aways seeking a mentor since childhood from whom I can get true inspiration and finally my prayers were answered and I am blessed to have living mentor Dr.Daisaku Ikeda,3rd President of Soka Gakkai International whose Life is exemplary regarding emerging victorious amidst hardships.His guidances has been my source of inner strength when I go through tough times but which also makes me believe that “Tough times don’t last, tough people do” .Arigato Sensei(In Japanese saying Thank You Teacher)
4.M for MBA, most overhyped M-MBA(Maha Bekaar Admi) I still remember when I was in school read an article of IIM & fat packages it offers post the degree and then me being silly after seeing presentation of one of coaching centre I assumed if I enroll with them I will get into Top elite B schools. Trust me attended so many MBA workshops that I can conduct one in future and yes last year I did while teaching I counseled many students. Well Singapore which I thought would be my ultimate destination and was all set but destiny has other plans and landed up in Bangkok where I was suppose to come with my bestie Nikita for one week to shop(Bangkok being Shoppers Paradise) ,sightseeing ,enjoy snorkeling amidst Blue waters but never thought will be doing MBA from here but as I said earlier connecting dots its Destiny and I am amazed is that something unexpected clicked here i.e. to get opportunity to intern with ad agency I had yearned since ages and finally could make the career shift here. All I have learnt is that more than Ivy League B school, overhyped FAT packages, its passion,confidence & performance by which one can climb the corporate ladder of success.
5.Now for the finale M for Man & Marriage, more than Mars & Venus talks I just want to emphasis after gaining more insight reading why Men marry Bitches and own life experiences, well how much I say regarding Emotional Attyachar, being single is bliss, most relationship nowdays comes with an expiry date but the fact remains as rightly said in Bollyflick-HUMTUM, Guys and Girls can’t stand each other nor can they live without each other, lol but one talk show where current Hearthrob Ranbir said Love is the most beautiful feeling kept me wondering as well, have I ever fallen in Love??iI had many crushes and all are crushed,makes me laugh for being so stupid and silly when I look back,lol……………..As “True love is like ghosts, everyone talks about it but only few have seen”
I have learnt a lot from few wonderful men(Dad,BigB,few good friends) I encountered in my life.All came in my life at different seasons for a significant reason and made me emotionally very strong and thanx to u guys i am so strongminded.I have also realized LOVE is too strong an emotion which is so unconditional. And I day I am in love I might shout at rooftops, do something filmy being a total Bollywood fan esepcially DDLJ :-)
Most common debate Love V/s Arrange Marriage, I feel its subjective because no one can measure which is most successful though in India rates of successful arranged marriage are more over love but how can truly one define its successful because sometimes real feelings are hidden in so many cases. Many at times, couple stick to each other because of social stigma even they can’t stand each other or no love between them anymore. Bottom line its very important to be with someone truly compatible and as they say Opposite attracts but it may repel too because I feel in my case I may not be compatible with someone who is very opposite of me,lol.At times I wonder is I DO necessary or better to be single forever?But I understood we cannot escape from the fact that Man is a social being and no one can be lonely for long but then rushing into a relationship just for heck of it is so suicidal as well.So,I have entrusted my beloved parents of finding their son-in-law if at all but they are superconfident I will make my own choice but I feel somehow if one finds true soulmate in school or college I guess one is truly blessed like one of my friends who dated a guy for 10 years and tied the knot on 10/10/10 :-) but again “Grass is always green on other side”
I strongly recommend the movie,”He is Just not That Into U” and simply loved the quotation with which the flick ends. "May be all happy endings doesn't include a wonderful guy,may be it's U,picking up the pieces and starting over,finding yourself better up for FUTURE and may be the Happy Ending is just MOVING ON...."This makes a girls like me super happy :-):-) Well this Bday my beloved sister/best friend aka Bubli asked me to stop drolling over John or Ranbir aka Desi Boys but to find someone attainable but i feel we find our true calling in most unexpected times & i so loved the flick-SERENDIPITY and may be like Simi said in that episode of India's most desirable with Ranbir Kapoor that his future wife must be watching that show,similarly may be someone whom God has written my LOVE story with might be reading this,lol.Jokes apart,i want to end sharing a simple My Funda to my girlies,though guys can apply the same too.Call it Ronmi's way like aka Mahi way as i have been Doctor Love/counsellor to many:-) "Guys are like different flavours of icecream"Please don't get me wrong or have wacky ideas in head,nothin non-veg,lol.Like when we go to an icecream parlour at times we get confused to grab Chocolate or ButterScotch but we have one favourite flavour which we discover after trying few flavours,similarly incase of guys at times we end up dating a wrong one and realise he is not the one but unless you take the plunge you will never realise what kind of person can keep you happy for lifetime and please never REGRET anything in Life coz everything teaches you in the end be good or bad you evolve as an Individual. I simply detest the bunch of critical people who are always there to make you feel that you have lived a life of regret and who has no other talks rather then discussing oh you have put on so much weight,dude please give me a break.........I read somewhere,it's so important to be in Relationships before finally settling down,not quoting arranged marriage is some sort of Gamble,ultimately its Destiny which decides who gets to stay in your life.
I am not against Man or Marriage but the fact many go through emotional atyachaar makes me question but it's a Fact that it takes two to tango,so if something goes horrible in a relationship,Blamegame is easy but there has to be missing element for sure for that relationship to not have clicked,may be proportions may vary sometimes one person might be more at fault but sustaining a relationship in today's dog-eat-dog world is a true Challenge and one cannot expect Chamatkar(miracle) without compromising and sometimes just to let go things..................
Like one of my favourite series"How i met your mother",i also feel like narrating after many years to my kids if i am alive to see that day coz Life is so unpredictable esepcially thes days of terror and uncertainity,"How i met your Father" But real life ain't rosy like movies & serials nor sadly to say love like Romeo-Juliet(mine favourite Love story which also made me super senti) exists,even if it does its really rare and i don't beileve in Mr Right/perfect coz i love imperfections :-)
Above all,to conclude,stop cribbing people,even at times i have the habit to feel very negative but now my resolution is to stop begruding one's life because Life is beautiful and we are blessed to have wonderful family,receving education,going to fancy parties and all that jazz which many in this world are deprived.So to end i would say " Life is like an ICECREAM,eat it before it melts.I guess i highlighted ICECREAM bit too much in this note so i should quickly go and grab my favorite Chocolate flavour and may be i will meet my someone special in a Icecream parlour in .....i wish to fill in blanks as Paris,most romantic place + fashion fiesta which in my wishlist to visit :-):-)
Last but the least,these are just 5 Ms like 5 fingers in one hand,may be i discover more Ms i will continue with the post.Also M for Memories,we meet people to create memories,we part to cherish them...........Rock On people & super thanx for all the Birthday wishes,feels good to share Bday with Diva aka Sheila-Katrina Kaif :-) Ya to add i have some affinity towards the word Super like i say Superlike in FB many at times,Super Positive,Super Power etc and i love SuperMan,may be next Blog will be about the superb word SUPER :-):-)
