Recent Tele Saga creating waves in recent times in the idiot box-Bani....Ishq da Kalma revolving around dream for NRI groom and losing true desi love in the process and not just protagonist Bani but 1000s of innocent girls across Bharat fall easy prey to this common NRI trap for having coveted desire for easy global high standard of living. Due to increase in number of fraudulent cases at an alarming rate, a parliamentary committee has recommended a separate law for NRI marriages so as to curb any case of fraud by NRI party, hence emergence of the standard full form-NON RELIABLE INDIAN(no offence) no disrespect to any third party of whomsoever concern and dwelling in videsh.
When Turkey's consul general Ozen visited India she was amused with the term-ARRANGED MARRIAGE and asked with great curiosity-Who will arrange the marriage? Can’t blame her mindset as in west this concept is rare. One of my very close buddy from East Timor was surprised that in India many people tie the knot in this manner. Life is indeed gamble and its like in matters of love, two hearts play and if meant to be they win in the sense of establishing a lifetime bond of everlasting commitment. But in this era where the word “TRUST” seems having got deleted to be replaced by antonym to be used as synonym instead “DISTRUST”. A young woman dreams of a healthy bond of marriage was shattered when she discovered after going to USA that her husband was a gay and he agreed because of family pressure. But what was this poor girl’s fault? She immediately returned to India and filed for divorce and does left her bitter taste towards life. Plenty are aware of incidents of shady men who put up fake profiles on matrimonial websites with an ulterior motive of sexual encounter. Even Aamir Khan's show "Satya Meva Jayate" hightlighted several cases especially where the girl's parents splurge over crores for dream wedding and the guy was settled in USA, only to torture her later, not providing food and she had to struggle to return back to India and file a lawsuit. The list of such sad plight and cases seem endless.
I am surprised at myself that I am writing article regarding anti-NRI when there was a time I suggested my eldest cousin sis to think regarding NRI-Australia rishta for her over desi counterpart but thankfully listening to her mom’s advice she made conscious decision and now happily ever after. Now as for me from all the glitters and immaturity, happy go lucky girl I have transformed into much wiser woman now especially after understanding the depth of true love even it was meant to be or not. Bottomline-In this wide world Moms are always right except Bani shown in the serial where her mom chasing NRI groom dream was so blind not to recognize genuine local guy’s true feelings for her daughter. May be one should watch “HIYA DIYA NIYA” regional Assamese movie very popular smash-hit highlights this NRI Craze through a heart touching tale of childhood sweethearts.
Of course not all NRIs fall in the category of non-reliable Indian because one can’t help if to earn better bread and butter they have to seek greener pastures but wants to settle with own nationality girl and craving for ghaar ki daal and chawal over burgers.
What amused me most was when one of my friend mentioned about www.dowry calculator.com and honestly I had no clue that something like this actually existed or its sarcasm? Its really sad and disheartening that something sacred as marriage nowadays is prey of material gains and as if one is going to carry all the wealth when he or she shuts the eyes when God wills.
Just flipping through the pages of a magazine saw article of diva Madhuri Dixit Nene and so much respect for the matter of fact, rare actress with perfect gait, talent, dancing queen and charming eternal classical beauty who balanced both superb career and life post marriage with equally capable intellect surgeon and also NRI(exceptions are always there J And now raising two kids again she is back with stupendous bang tapping feet to the rhythm of GHAGRA showing her Jhalak with youth icon RANBIR.
Obviously back of the mind, we common girls next door wonder, why dream things beyond reach and consider Madhuri as idol etc? But its not just seeing perspective from BOLLYWOOD DIVA but yeah she got married at 32 and mother at 37 and if we say these kind of statistics to our dear Bharatiya aunties they will be like Oh Gosh post 30 is too late blah blah and chuck Madhuri she can afford things but so can we, can’t we? Atleast not necessary we may not have palatial mansion at Marine Drive but we can sustain ourselves and priortize work and Right Guy will obviously walk in at the Right Time rather we chasing it and getting stressed regarding age. I was told once “Right Guy will knock at your doorsteps for sure”. Early marriage doesnot guarantee success neither too late a baby at times but what matters is compatibility with the partner to sustain through turbulent times and have doubtfree Faith.
So bottomline before NRI or Desi guy EMPOWER yourself FIRST, my dear girles and don't depend your happiness on a guy coz we are solely responsible for ourselves. Please stop being prey to this huge marriage market and dowry & unwanted unhappy adjustments and shift focus on yourself and your priorities first. Like in Three Idiots punchline "Kaabil Baano, Kamyiyaabi Jhaak maarke peeche aayegi" and in similar context "Trust yourself, love yourself wholeheartedly and be as you are with beautiful mind and the most eligible bachelor in town would go down in his knees and will ask you that million dollar question :P And you might be in that position that you might just turn him down as he might be that same fellow who never understood your worth when you were chasing him or could be also HAPPILY EVER AFTER. But don't forget post marriage another challenge awaits but it will be a cakewalk for you as you are strong, courageous, confident and inspiring women of 21st century prior saying "I DO" :-) Cheers!!
