21st Century PARVATI

First & Foremost  I would like to extend my BIG THANKS to one of my great true buddy SHIV SHANKAR in real and one of our random conversations resulted in penning down this article which took a while as I wanted to first visit Birth Place of Sati(Parvati is Sati's reincarnation) in the pure land of Kankhal close proximity to Haridwar.

I always keep telling Shiv, there might be millions of ShivBhakts in the planet but why am I queen of co-incidences (title given by Dear Maari who also bestowed on me BEGUM RON for my crazy fondness for Urdu & Nawaabs :-) So I was destined to visit birthplace of SATI(my Universe Mahadev’s first consort) and back of mind was the topic “21st Century Parvati” coined by Shiv meaning sarcastic title for girls seeking rich bloke for own easy secured reasons ahead.

Parvati  means 'of the hills' who is Sati’s reincarnation symbolizes “Eternal Love”. Sati sacrificed herself in the holy pyre as she could not bear insult of her Hubby Dearest, Lord of thy Universe Mahadev by her arrogant father Daksh Prajapati which led to the mass destruction around. Shiva picked up her lifeless corpse and wandered over the whole world, holding her aloft. Vishnu followed Shiva and taking his Sundersan Chakra , He cut off pieces of Sati’s body, limb by limb. Shiva realized that there was nothing more in his arms so retired to the mountain and went into deep penance refusing to meet anyone. Those places where Sati’s limbs had fallen came to be known as Shakti Peethas, where the power of the divine mother was most keenly felt. Later Parvati took rebirth and did not care about the hardships she had to face to get her true love-one & only Shiva and she worshipped for years to win His trust and love. 

Above mentioned is a brief backdrop of the eternal and purest form of Love story which has always inspired me till date but alas I can’t take such penance as Amarnath is out of reach for me and Marine Drive in Mumbai being total Mumbaikaar ain’t suitable, lol but jokes apart, i asked myself  is someone so worthy to undergo such sacrifice? Once one of my close school buddy Nilu bluntly said Parvati sacrificed immensely to please Lord Shiva and why is it that women always has to undergo all kinds of trial and tribulations to please a guy but now I got actual answer I was seeking for Nilu's sake. The guy was no ordinary one, it was Lord of this vast Universe Shiva who loved Sati truly,madly,deeply and Parvati was none other but Sati’s reincarnation. But Nilu’s thought provoking query is much valid in today’s era where Divorce and hitting court room seem like another mundane ordinary affair. Zero tolerance, will have it always my way kinda attitude and lack of compromise is resulting in lack of trust in sacred institution as marriage. If we always compare why me then road shall never reach the actual destination of Happiness but only obstacles of Ego will be loads on the path and instead of overcoming we succumb to most common route of Break Up.

Coming back to the real essence of 21st Century Parvati, I really don’t have the exact answer if it is appropriate to call a girl seeking only financial security and wanting only a  rich guy irrespective of the fact he respects her or not as some prefer the easy social butterfly tag and page 3 kinda lifestyle as perfect definition of today’s generation Parvati.  Or a girl who is super independent, breaking away from social norms and not comprising with any dumb head just to get the social status of Mrs in her twenties and ready to wait even post 40s to meet her Prince Charming and even better single and no strings attach with bindas attitude always? A homely naïve girl who is your mom’s choice but not yours and you decide to compromise to please your folks back home but carry on with extra marital affair with existing snooty girl friend? A girl struggling with daily affairs with zero savings as she is the only sole bread earner of her family and has to just forget the idea of meeting her Prince Charming and happily everafter ways as she has five younger siblings and ailing mother to look after?

I remember this interesting lady, Beauty Parlour owner i met recently who said nowadays if love is only not pure how can we expect materials like shakha pola bangles, sindoor that signifies the lifelong bond of marriage-a promise to be together not just this birth but seven births thereafter to be pure? Her comment made much sense to me so in nutshell, 21st Century Parvati is one who compliments her Shiva in every era of her existence.

"When a husband is happy, his wife will be fulfilled. If a husband is a thief, his wife will become one too. This is not a matter of this life alone. A husband and wife are as close as a form and shadows, flowers and fruit, or roots and leaves, in every existence of life. Insects eat the trees they live in, and fish drink the water in which they swim. If grasses wither, orchids grieve, if pine trees flourish, cypresses rejoice" In other words, two people stay together, share their lives or experience their combined karma together but they don't just get together randomly. Ideal relationship should be reciprocally be nourishing(Source- Article on Soulmate by Soka Gakkai International member)

P.S i want to leave the conclusion to the thinking minds of the readers..... And as in who fits perfectly under the title-21st Century Parvati? While breaking your heads you can also rewind yourself with the latest remix-HAR KISSIKO NAHIN MILTA YAHAN PYAR ZINDAGI MAIN.......!or i should also add SAACHA PYAR ISS ZINDAGI MAIN....!